That’s an easy question, isn’t it? Men.
To me, there’s no doubt that men are unfaithful in relationships much more than women.
It’s part of men’s DNA, I think, to take foolish risks – and pursuing sex outside of a committed relationship is a high-risk endeavor. The fling probably won’t last, and it could end a stable relationship.
But a website devoted to outing alleged cheaters says women, not men, have more affairs.
Cheaterville Inc., which has 300,000 users, says 81 percent of its posts are about unfaithful women.
A disclaimer: The site says it doesn’t verify the claims of its users. So I suppose anyone could accuse anyone else of cheating.
Maybe men are simply more prone to retaliate after an affair by posting info about a woman.
But despite the site’s statistical shortcomings, it still raises an interesting question about cheating among the sexes.
I did an Internet search to see if any scientific studies addressed whether men or women had more affairs.
Studies examine infidelity
It showed that in any year, about 12 percent of men and 7 percent of women said they had sex outside of marriage. Men dominate – not surprising.
But a University of Washington study says three times as many women older than 60 reported having an affair during their lifetime as did in 1991, according to the New York Times article. During that same time period, only slightly more men reported having sex outside of marriage.
“Men want to think women don’t cheat, and women want men to think they don’t cheat,” says Helen E. Fisher, an anthropologist at the Center for Human Evolutionary Studies at Rutgers University. “Therefore, the sexes have been playing a little psychological game with each other.”
Why am I not surprised? Men and women seem to always play psychological games with one another. Isn’t that a given in relationships?
We’ll never know who does more cheating
Personally, I doubt if anyone knows whether men or women are more likely to have affairs. After all, would you answer that question honestly in a survey?
So all we’re left with are hunches. I still believe that men, across the board, cheat more than women. I could be wrong.
I also don’t think either of my ex-wives cheated on me. But am I 100 percent sure? No.
When you’re in a committed relationship, you never really know if your partner is having sex on the side. Accept that fact.
It’s sad but true.
Trust is essential in relationships. Without evidence to the contrary, you should believe that your wife or girlfriend is being faithful. But never become blind to the possibility that she could be cheating. Even the best person can yield to temptation.