If you don’t have a girlfriend or wife, you may be feeling sorry for yourself today.
Valentine’s Day is a commercially driven day that puts undue pressure on people to impress their significant other – and makes the unattached feel like losers.
Don’t fall for the marketing message.
If you’re a single dad with primary custody of your child, finding romance shouldn’t be your top priority. It should be taking care of your kid.
Is your son or daughter healthy and happy? Then feel blessed on Valentine’s Day.
There’s a time to chase women. Now’s not the time if you’re barely keeping up with your parental responsibilities.
I’m fortunate to have a 12-year-old son, Connor, who is relatively low maintenance. Still, taking care of his basic needs – feeding him, getting him to bed on time, and making sure he’s doing well in school – exhausts me.
Dating during the week is virtually impossible. There’s simply not enough time. On the weekends, I’m often too tired or behind on mundane tasks – such as doing laundry or working in the yard – to schedule a date.
And I have just one child at home. I know other single parents with several young kids. How do they have any social life?
I’m not saying it’s impossible to have a dating relationship and be a responsible parent, but it’s difficult. When you’ve involved with a woman, it squeezes the time and attention you give your child. Your life becomes more complicated.
I want to remind unattached people that finding romance doesn’t necessarily make your life better. You’re happier in the love department, but you may be overloaded in the parenting department.
I date, and I would encourage other single dads too also. But I’m not pursuing women. If the right one comes my way and a relationship meshes with my parental duties, I’m ready to be attached.
On this Valentine’s Day, I’m alone. On the plus side, I won’t worry about picking out the proper gift or arranging a romantic dinner. Instead, I’ll be hanging out with Connor.
We’ll be two bachelors having a good time.
Don’t let your desire for a woman make you a second-rate parent. Your kid will be grown before you know it. Then you’ll have plenty of time and energy to pursue a relationship. Now, romance must take a back seat to parenting.