Do you like a woman to talk dirty during sex?

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To be honest, I’m a little embarrassed typing that question. And I don’t get embarrassed easily talking about sex.

I can’t say that talking dirty has ever been a quality I’ve demanded in a woman. But apparently some guys want a foul-mouthed gal.

How else do you explain this book called Dirty Dialogue: A Good Girl’s Guide to Being Bad!

“Has your man put pressure on you to perform in bed – even demanded that you talk dirty for his pleasure – freezing you like a deer in headlights and making you feel you’re not good enough for him?” says a website promoting the book.

Well, guys, have you ever made this demand? And how was it received?

Apparently, some women try their hardest at dirty talk but fail miserably, according to the book’s author, Devian Day.

“Have you ever attempted to talk dirty to your man after pushing yourself to break the ice, didn’t get the response you expected, and quickly felt awkward and embarrassed – killing the mood – making you look back at the experience with fear, guilty and rejecting?” she writes.

Oh, the trauma!

My eyes have been opened to a whole new sexual issue between a man and a woman: Can you (will you) talk dirty to me when we screw?

I’m bummed. I thought we already had enough sexual conflict.

On her lengthy website, the author promises to unlock the “secrets to talking dirty to a guy” – if you buy her book for $39.97.


If anyone buys it, let me know what you think. In the meantime, I’ll pose the question to men and women alike: How important is dirty talk during sex?

Personally, actions speak far louder than words to me. I suppose the right words are icing on the cake, but words alone don’t create sexual fulfillment.

If they could, why not just have phone sex with anonymous people? It’d sure be simpler than having relationships.

Out of curiosity, I did a Google search on “talking dirty.” I found a treasure trove of websites offering advice.

“How To Talk Dirty:  50 Examples That Will Make You Blush!” read one article.

One of my favorite sites,, gave guys some sample phrases to use in bed. They include:

  • Do you want me to slide my throbbing member into your sweet portal?
  • The thought of you wrapping your hot mouth around my pulsating rod drives me crazy.

I started laughing when I read those lines. Is this article serious or satirical? I can’t tell.

Some sex experts say dirty talk is no laughing matter – it works. Tracey Cox, who bills herself as “an international sex, body language and relationship expert,” advises women to work on their filthy phrases.

“It’s time to get serious about the benefits this surprisingly easy trick will have on your sex life,” she writes. “As well as being a great – and subtle – way of telling your man exactly what you want in bed, it will drive him crazy, so it really is a win-win situation.”

Are you sold on the benefits of dirty talk?

At the moment, I’m simply speechless.


When it comes to sex, different things work for different people. Who are we to judge? If a guy poses the question above (Do you want me to slide my throbbing member into your sweet portal?) – and it works, more power to him.

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About Ed Housewright

Ed Housewright is the chief cook and bottle washer at Single Dad House. After three decades as a newspaper reporter, he’s trying to adapt to the social media world. He’s matrimonially challenged with two divorces under his belt and is trying to do a better job at raising his 12-year-old son, Connor. Follow Ed on Twitter: @singledadhouse.


  1. I will think of this the next time. Women who can truly do it are definitely appreciated.

  2. This topic isn't discussed that much. There needs to be more women who talk dirty!

  3. Women who talk dirty are a true asset. It needs to be done more in relationships.

  4. This is amazing. Some women are too shy to talk dirty but us men love it when women talk dirty.

    • Gina Racic says:

      women are shy but keep the light out an women will talkdirty an she and her parnter will have the best sex they ever had, an he will start talking dirty to please her.

  5. Gina Racic says:

    Dirty Talk is a must. men love it even if they dont wanna say it. I think a women should always be a lady.that can be taken to spend a evening with his parents,or a evening withs friends. But in the bedroom she should be a whore!!!!! Men love it……

  6. You really make it seem so easy with your presentation but I find this topic to be actually something that I think I

    would never understand. It seems too complicated and very broad for me.

    I am looking forward for your next post, I will try to get the hang of it!

  7. I quite like reading through a post that will make men and women think.
    Also, thanks for allowing for me to comment!

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