Some people have an extreme reaction when I tell them I do online dating.
“What!” they say. “Are you crazy? Don’t you meet some psychos? I’d be afraid to meet people online.”
I don’t understand this fear, yet I know it’s prevalent. Honestly, how else are you supposed to meet large numbers of eligible singles other than online?
I mean, you can only date so many co-workers or friends of friends.
To me, Internet dating is by far the safest, most efficient and least expensive way to meet a potential partner.
Nina Atwood, the Singlescoach, agrees. She writes a fabulous column for SingleDadHouse on dating issues and has a new eBook titled Internet Dating for the Savvy Single.
She’s offering people free downloads of the book from today through Friday. I say jump at the opportunity to benefit from Nina’s relationship wisdom.
“As I’m writing this, tens of thousands of couples—who met on the Internet—are deciding to marry!” Nina says. “If you don’t know someone who is happily married who met his or her soul mate online, you will. I personally know half a dozen happily married couples who met through an Internet-based dating site.”
So why aren’t you wading into the online dating pool?
“Yes, there are bad stories about online dating,” Nina writes. “And there are bad stories about meeting people at bars. And bad stories about meeting them at work, at Church, through friends. Bad relationship stories abound because of the dynamics of relationships, not because of where or how the couple met.”
Online dating tips
Nina offers five strategies for making online dating work for you:
- Invest your money. She recommends joining sites that charge a fee, as opposed to free sites. “It doesn’t cost much to get a paying membership and it is well worth it. Then, you can look for people who interest you and reach out to them, giving you a greater sense of control over your own destiny.”
- Invest your time. Make time to look for matches who interest you. “It takes a few hours per week … but it’s well worth the time, and you can multi-task since you are sitting there in your own home.”
- Assume nothing about compatibility or character. Don’t trust sites to screen people for you, Nina says. “Nothing substitutes for taking your time getting to know someone slowly, by asking the right kinds of questions. Background checks are essential.”
- Move from online to real time sooner rather than later. If you communicate only online, you may get swept away by a woman’s words and assume she is a perfect match for you, she warns. “Additionally, when you do meet someone for the first time, sometimes you find that the chemistry you felt on the phone evaporates in real time. Better to find that out sooner rather than later …”
- Date more than one person at a time. Nina recommends dating a handful of women at a time – and not having sex with any to avoid premature attachment. Explore “the important issues: chemistry, character, and how much she is into you” during a few dates, she says. By the fifth date, you should know which woman stands out from the others.
Nina says if you use Internet dating wisely, you can fall in love in six months or less.
Believe her? Why not try?
Don’t let fear of Internet dating cost you a chance to meet the woman of your dreams.