It’s tricky business to create an effective online dating profile. It’s a sales pitch, basically.
You’re trying to use the proper words and images to attract a woman.
You’ll find a ton of advice on the Internet about creating a dynamic profile. You can also turn to dating coaches, which I didn’t know existed until recently. For a fee, they’ll help craft words and select photos to lure in Ms. Right.
Or at least they’ll try.
Recently, I saw on article on match.com that cut through some of the advice clutter.
The headline: The words that turn women off online.
I wanted to learn about these deal-breakers.
The author, relationship expert Dr. Gilda Carle, lists 10 words and phrases that supposedly send women running. They can show up in your online dating profile or in correspondence with women.
“Some of them are doozies,” Carle says. “But they all come from real profiles belonging to guys that are presumably looking for love.”
One of the no-no’s: Words that objectify women.
Carle says one guy wrote, “You are so beautiful, I’d like to drape you on my arm.”
“You have me confused with a sweater,” the uninterested woman fired back.
Do you blame her?
“Women don’t want to feel like an ornament to be displayed and fed,” Carle writes.
Also, don’t use pet names or terms of endearment too soon, she says. For instance, don’t call her “baby.”
The vast majority of women prefer to be called “by their first name rather than some saccharine, generic term,” Carle says.
OK, how much time do you spend fine-tuning your dating profile and proofreading your emails to women?
According to Carle, you’d better spend a little more time.
I think you can go overboard. You can obsess about your online dating profile and the image you project – and still strike out with women. I believe less is more.
My profile, for instance, is short and doesn’t use any flowery language. When I correspond with a woman, I try to be straightforward and not play games.
Is my approach working? Yes and no. I haven’t found a wife, but I’m not really looking. I have, however, met many attractive, interesting women online.
I have an active dating life – and that’s my goal now.
If you’re interested in online dating, use some care in developing your profile. It’s your calling card. You don’t want your profile to immediately turn off women.