That statement might surprise some people.
Aren’t Thanksgiving and Christmas supposed to make you depressed if you’re divorced? Aren’t you supposed to miss the wonderful family times when you, your ex and your kids were together?
For me, the holidays only accentuated the marriage problems. I’ve been divorced twice, and in each case I have far more negative memories of the holidays than positive.
My wives and I would argue over how much to buy, how much time to spend with our families, what we should cook, how we should decorate, what to do for fun and whether we should travel.
The holidays were a nightmare in the Housewright household. I couldn’t wait for them to end so we could get back to our normal routine. It wasn’t great, but it didn’t have the built-in pressure of the holidays.
Now, when Thanksgiving and Christmas roll around, I have a lot less stress and a lot more fun. I enjoy being with my son, my brother and his kids, and my parents – without the burden of a wife and the inevitable disagreements.
Likewise, both my ex-wives are free to enjoy the holidays as they wish with their families.
Everyone is a winner, including my 11-year-old son. He gets a double dose of Thanksgiving and Christmas – once with me, once with his mom. He gets more attention, and he doesn’t have to endure the icy tension between his mom or stepmom and me.
Sometimes, being a single dad sucks. Going it alone means you have more demands on your time, more pressure on your wallet and more parenting decisions to make.
But during Thanksgiving and Christmas, divorce is a gift. Sure, that sounds odd. I guess I should feel guilty being thankful for divorce, but I don’t.
And I doubt I’m alone in this sentiment. Be honest. Were the holidays really so great when you were married? Isn’t life much simpler and more enjoyable now that you’re single?
I think I hear a chorus of amens.