Until recently, I’d never thought about this question.
I’ve taken dates to Chili’s, On the Border, Friday’s and any number of other chain restaurants. They’re all decent places to eat, right? Hey, a chain restaurant doesn’t have to mean Denny’s or Golden Corral.
But it turns out that I may be a classless cheapskate. I saw an article (written by a woman) that lists six places not to take a date. Among them: a sports bar, theme park and comedy club. Agreed.
But a chain restaurant?
“If you take us to a place we can find in every major city, where the interior always looks the same, you might as well feed us lattes at Starbucks,” the smart-mouthed writer says. “We’d rather be taken somewhere off the beaten path – where there are candles instead of fluorescent lights and we don’t have to listen to top 40 songs from a speaker overhead.”
Well, excuse me.
Isn’t the purpose of a date to get to know the other person? Or is it for the woman to squeeze the guy for an expensive meal just so she’ll feel special?
I’m a little sensitive about this topic, I’ll admit. A few months ago, I briefly dated a woman who considered herself sophisticated and was into “fine dining.” I went along for a while, taking her to three high-toned restaurants.
The tab for each was more than $125, and I winced when I saw the amounts. But the woman was attractive and interesting, and I considered the expensive meals a temporary investment in the relationship.
Soon, however, I realized she wanted to eat at the finest restaurants all the time. She felt entitled. A couple of times, I suggested we mix in some cheaper restaurants with the outrageously expensive ones.
“I will not eat at a chain restaurant,” she said bluntly.
Soon, we broke up. I couldn’t afford to feed her. And even if I could have, her prima donna attitude turned me off.
Listen, I’ll gladly go to a white-tablecloth place on occasion. I understand about wining and dining a woman. I’m not cheap.
But I’m also not gullible. When a woman insists on always eating at over-the-top restaurants, I know she’s more interested in the dining experience than in me.
Don’t forget the primary purpose of a date. It’s to get to know the other person, not to feed her ego with fancy surroundings. If she’s too good to eat at a moderately priced restaurant, let her go.