I hear that all the time from single people, and I read it on dating profiles.
That statement bugs me.
It implies that if you’re not married, you’re alone. Why do people think that?
Do you have friends, siblings, cousins, neighbors, co-workers? If yes, then you’re not alone.
You’re only alone if you choose to be alone.
Get out of the house. Pick up the phone. Adopt a pet. Volunteer somewhere. Log onto Facebook, for goodness sake! You can be in touch with hundreds of people with just a few clicks.
Listen, I’ve never felt more alone than in a bad marriage. That’s like solitary confinement or a death sentence.
You have a wife, so you’re not technically alone. People don’t feel sorry for you. But in a terminally ill marriage, you’ve stopped communicating. Stopped caring. Stopped being partners.
You really are alone.
OK, you may say I’m fatalistic about marriage. No, I’m seeing the situation correctly.
I know many people who have wonderful marriages. Really, I envy them. They aren’t alone.
But I know just as many people who are married and live together, but they actually separated many years ago. They’re truly alone.
I know this is a cliché, but it’s true: You choose whether to be happy. And you choose whether to be alone.
I’ve been divorced for almost three years, but I’ve never been happier. I don’t feel alone. Instead, I feel free. Free to make my own choices. Free to pick my friends. Free to decide whether to go out or stay home.
Being single is great – if you view it that way.
Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’re alone. Adjust your thinking, and you’ll improve your life. Finding a partner isn’t necessarily the answer to loneliness.