As a parent, you’re going to lose your temper. Kids frustrate, anger and perplex us – that seems to be their job.
But no matter how upset you get, watch your mouth. In a fit of anger, you could say something that could deeply wound your child. You can always apologize, but hurtful words can’t be taken back.
I saw a good article recently that listed nine things never to say to your child. Here are a few of the phrases that made an impression on me:
- “You know better than that!”
- “Leave me alone!”
- “Don’t cry!”
- “You’re so …!”
When we’re calm, it’s easy to see these statements are out of line. The key to parenting, though, is to do the right thing – or avoid doing the wrong thing – when we’re at wit’s end.
“Even with older kids, no discipline strategy yields surefire results right off the bat every time,” the article says. “So it’s more effective to develop a repertoire of constructive tactics, such as redirection, removing the child from the situation or timeouts, than it is to rely on those with proven negative consequences …”
Kids learn from us. How can we teach them proper behavior and anger management if we don’t exhibit them ourselves?