We’re a different breed, ladies.
We can be high-maintenance, I hate to admit. We’re dealing with parenting responsibilities while trying to keep peace with an ex who can be a bitch on wheels.
In other words, we’ve got a lot on our plate. We can’t devote 100 percent of our time and attention to the woman we’re dating. That’s just a fact.
Don’t start dating a single dad and think you’ll suddenly rise to the top of the totem pole. You don’t, and you won’t.
Kids come first and career/money second. If we don’t put our kids first, we’re a lousy dad. If we don’t put our job and finances second, we aren’t looking out for our kids’ futures.
See what I mean, women? Sure, we’re looking for love – but love isn’t our top priority. If we went through a nasty divorce, especially recently, we’re leery of love and not sure we believe in it anymore.
We’re distrustful of women – sorry, but it’s true. We question the motives of women who seem attracted to us. Are they trying to separate us from our kids? Are they trying to turn our world upside down so we’ll “prove” we love them?
We’re a bit neurotic, us single dads. Face it.
Still want to date us?
If you haven’t run away screaming, let me share some good news. We can be a helluva catch – despite our drawbacks.
We’ve experienced a miserable marriage that ended in divorce, so we’re smarter about women. We’re attuned to red flags in a relationship. In other words, we’re a better shopper in the dating world.
So, if we show an interest in a woman, we aren’t doing so casually. We don’t need more heartache, so you must be pretty special if we’re chasing you. Feel flattered.
Something else: Yes, we’re juggling a lot of balls as a single dad. But we’ve become adept at it. So we can usually add another ball (a dating relationship), without dropping the others. We’re good at time management. When we’re with you, ladies, we’re really there. We treasure having free time – especially with someone special.
Let me summarize. If you want an easy dating relationship where you can call the shots, stay away from dating a single dad.
But if you don’t mind a complicated man who’s been burned in the past and fears being burned again, if you can handle a guy who might cancel a date abruptly because his ex-wife reneges on a promise to watch the kid, if you’re OK with an occasional quick date at a cheap restaurant – then you might be equipped to date a single dad.
As long as you know the ground rules, we can have a great time. And we might even find love.
Dating a single dad can be a nightmare. Or it can be very rewarding. Largely, it depends on the woman. She must be patient, flexible and content to take a back seat at times. But she may discover a multifaceted, caring guy with great character. His trials have made him more equipped to give love.